If you follow me on Instagram and watch my InstaStories, you may remember me mentioning a photoshoot I participated in. Instead of being behind the camera, I was actually in front of it. As nervous and scared as I was, I wanted to do it for some very special and important people in our life – our 3 angels and our Rainbow Baby.
The shoot was to not only launch Dr. Jessica Zucker’s Rainbow Mama & Rainbow Babe tees but to also celebrate the special journey some of us go through in order to bring life into this world. A group of us Rainbow Mamas got together and shared our stories and celebrated each others’ unique experiences. Looking around I couldn’t help but notice how vastly different we were yet we were all connected by a common thread that brought us together. Pregnancy loss has nothing to with race, culture, class, ethnicity, or education. We are all mothers who lost their babies too suddenly and too soon.
Part of my healing process from our 3 losses was sharing openly and honestly about my experiences and heartaches. I felt extremely lonely and I blamed myself for everything. I was depressed and hopeless and couldn’t see the light (or rainbow) at the end of a very dark tunnel. As I slowly began opening up, I was shocked to find how many people I knew, who had beautiful children, experienced previous losses. It was then I realized how many women had kept silent because they felt ashamed or embarrassed and because society wasn’t prepared to embrace them.
This is just wrong. We need to continue to de-shame, de-silence, and de-stigmatize pregnancy and infant loss.
Please don’t be afraid to ask for support and open up to your loved ones. Please don’t be ashamed or scared. As you can see, you are not alone and you did nothing wrong. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it many, many times — It may take a village to raise a child but it also takes a village to heal from losing one.
Tomorrow, October 15th, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. To all the mothers who will be remembering their angels and the life that could have been, I’ll be right there with you sending you love and hugs. To all the mothers who are wondering when they’ll get their Rainbow Baby, I hope my journey gives you hope. And to all mothers who have children, give them some extra big hugs tomorrow and everyday. Because they’re little miracles who beat the odds.
Can’t wait to rock these tees with Baby Boy
- To read more about our shoot and the #IHadAMiscarriage Campaign, click here.
- I share about my 2nd miscarriage on Jessica’s Instagram page.
- Purchase your own Rainbow Mama & Rainbow Babe tees (and totes) here.
All photos (except of tees) by Vaughn Dabney.